What Makes A Healthy Relationship?

Let’s just start by saying every relationship is different; what works for some couples doesn’t work for others. Some couples are happy with open relationships, others want monogamy. Some like a good argument every so often, and others want smooth sailing. But, whatever kind of relationship you have, it should be healthy.

Honesty - Honesty really is the best policy! It’s important to have honest and open communication between the two of you. There are a couple of times when it’s okay to tell a little white lie “Mmmm… This meal you’ve spent hours cooking is so good!” but in the majority of cases the best thing to do is tell the truth, however bad you may think it is. Without honesty, there can be no trust. Which brings us onto the next point…

Trust - Now this can be a tricky one. Some people can trust people very easily, others (especially if they’ve been hurt in the past) find it harder. You need to be able to trust the other person, otherwise you may end up smothering them or pushing them away. If you think you or a partner may have trouble trusting someone, see these 4 ways to build trust.

Making decisions together - Obviously there will be times when one person may know more about one topic (cars, holidays, finances) than the other person, but both people in a relationship should feel like their opinions matter, and are taken into account before a decision is made together.

Freedom to wear what you want - It may seem like a small thing, but wearing clothes we choose to wear defines who we are, and you (and only you) have the right to say what you should wear. If your partner starts telling you what you can and can’t wear, this is controlling behaviour, and can be a sign of an abusive relationship.

Spending time with friends - If you like/love someone, you’re probably going to want to spend a lot of time with them, but you should always make sure you keep in touch with friends or family. If your partner is stopping you from spending time with other people or making you feel guilty for seeing them, this could be a bad sign.

Support - This is a two way street - you need to be supportive but you also need to let your significant other know when you need their support. A lot of us expect our partners to be mind readers, so make sure you let them know when you’re in need of some reassurance and what they can do to help you.

Find information and advice on unhealthy or abusive relationships here.

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