Support LGBT+ initiatives, such as Pride and awareness days
Don’t assume everyone is heterosexual
Use gender neutral language when possible
Don’t push your personal values on other people
Challenge offensive language or “banter” when you hear it
Don’t force someone to come out or “out” them yourself
Learn about local and national LGBT+ services
Ask if there is any support you can offer
Don’t stereotype e.g. assuming they know other LGBT+ people or have certain interests
Remember: someone’s gender or sexuality is only one part who they are. They are still the same person, no matter who they fall in love with or how they see themselves.
Being an ally
10 Top Tips
In the workplace
Display visible LGBT+ posters and resources
Encourage an open and inclusive environment
Don’t gossip with colleagues and/or “out” other people
With young people
Let young people express themselves
Listen and let them know that you’re there to support them
Tell them about Galaxy Youth Group
Pronoun Dos and Don'ts
Use the same pronouns that the person refers to themselves as
Use neutral pronouns (they/them) if you’re unsure how someone identifies
Refer to someone by their preferred pronouns at all times, even when talking to other people
Say someone’s pronouns aren’t real (e.g. Mx, Ze, Xe)
Say using “they” as a pronoun isn’t grammatically correct
If in doubt it is best to ask the individual how they would like to be addressed
Don’t use someone’s birth name if they’ve changed their name
- this is known as ‘deadnaming’ and can be upsetting
Challenging homophobia and transphobia
"That's so gay!"
This is usually used in a derogatory way to mean something is bad.
If someone is using it you could challenge them by saying:
“If something’s rubbish, say it’s rubbish. If you say it’s gay then you’re implying being gay is a bad thing.”
"They're not really a woman though, are they?"
If someone identifies as a different gender than the one they were assigned at birth, this doesn’t mean that they’re less of, or not a real, woman or man.
If someone says a statement like this, you could challenge them by saying:
“If they identify as a woman then they are a woman.”
It is important to challenge homophobic, biphobic or transphobic language.
If someone uses offensive words, you could challenge them by saying:
“That word is actually offensive to LGBT+ people. You could really upset someone by using those words.”