Support LGBT+ initiatives, such as Pride and awareness days

1.

Don’t assume everyone is heterosexual

2.

Use gender neutral language when possible

3.

Don’t push your personal values on other people

4.

Challenge offensive language or “banter” when you hear it

5.

Don’t force someone to come out or “out” them yourself

6.

Learn about local and national LGBT+ services 

7.

Ask if there is any support you can offer

8.

Don’t stereotype e.g. assuming they know other LGBT+ people or have certain interests

9.

Remember: someone’s gender or sexuality is only one part who they are. They are still the same person, no matter who they fall in love with or how they see themselves.

10.

Being an ally

10 Top Tips

In the workplace 

Display visible LGBT+ posters and resources
 

Encourage an open and inclusive environment
 

Don’t gossip with colleagues and/or “out” other people

With young people

 

Let young people express themselves

 

Listen and let them know that you’re there to support them

 

Tell them about Galaxy Youth Group

Pronoun Dos and Don'ts

DO

Use the same pronouns that the person refers to themselves as 

DO

Use neutral pronouns (they/them) if you’re unsure how someone identifies

DO

Refer to someone by their preferred pronouns at all times, even when talking to other people

DON'T

Say someone’s pronouns aren’t real (e.g. Mx, Ze, Xe)

DON'T

Say using “they” as a pronoun isn’t grammatically correct

If in doubt it is best to ask the individual how they would like to be addressed

Don’t use someone’s birth name if they’ve changed their name 
- this is known as ‘deadnaming’ and can be upsetting

Challenging homophobia and transphobia

"That's so gay!"

This is usually used in a derogatory way to mean something is bad. 
If someone is using it you could challenge them by saying:
“If something’s rubbish, say it’s rubbish. If you say it’s gay then you’re implying being gay is a bad thing.”

"They're not really a woman though, are they?"

If someone identifies as a different gender than the one they were assigned at birth, this doesn’t mean that they’re less of, or not a real, woman or man. 
If someone says a statement like this, you could challenge them by saying:
“If they identify as a woman then they are a woman.”

It is important to challenge homophobic, biphobic or transphobic language. 
If someone uses offensive words, you could challenge them by saying:
“That word is actually offensive to LGBT+ people. You could really upset someone by using those words.”

LGBT Stoke is a service provided by the Sexual Health Prevention Team from Midlands Partnership NHS Foundation Trust